A topical site like this one usually has a neat, logical, structured outline to follow. But there are always a few pieces that just didn’t fit anywhere, or that come up later. That’s what this section is for… All those random Ukrainian women topics, issues, and thoughts that came up later and just don’t easily fit into the outline.
By the very nature of a section like this it will start small and grow in time as I think of things I need to add.
Ukrainian women’s perception of marriage and life in America
Ask any Ukrainian/American or Ukrainian/American couple you know and they will tell you that the transition is not smooth, and that the first years often involve a LOT of friction and conflict as the two cultures blend.
Much of the friction derives from false expectations that Ukrainian women hold about life in America. They’ve seen TV and movies depicting life here. They’ve heard stories from friends. They’re pretty sure they know how it’s going to be. Then they arrive and the bubble bursts!
Nothing is like they expected, and it’s stressful!
This page is actually FOR and TO UKRAINIAN WOMEN! Maybe I will have it professionally translated one day, but for now it is only in English. It is something I hope will help them start adjusting their expectations beforehand.
If you’re an American man involved with a Ukrainian woman and hoping to bring her to the U.S. to marry you, you DEFINITELY want her to read this. You can figure out how to present it, and you can tell her how close what I say applies to your situation. But I hope it will be useful.
You can find it at Real Life in America.
Cynical men
In the previous topic, “Real Life in America”, I point out that it is very common for Ukrainian women to have preconceived ideas of what life in America is like. And those preconceived ideas are that life in America is much better than it really is.
That doesn’t mean that they ALL are SEEKING that, only that they EXPECT it. And by “expect”, I don’t mean “demand”. They expect it like you might expect to see a lot of cowboy hats and boots in Dallas, Texas.
But if you embark on the pursuit of a foreign woman from Ukraine you are almost sure to encounter men who have been there many times telling you a story about what these women are like. And that story isn’t good.
They’ll tell you that ALL Ukrainian women really want a WEALTHY man. They’ll tell you that if your net worth doesn’t have enough digits then you’ll need to settle for an older and/or not-so-attractive woman.
Are they right? Read Cynical Men to find out the truth.
Age Difference
In the West (North America, Western/Northern Europe, Australia) the prevailing feminized culture prohibits men from taking any notice of women younger than them, let alone date/marry them. It’s OK for a “cougar” (older single woman) to pick off a much younger man, but never the reverse.
But what about in other cultures? Are larger age differences acceptable if one searches in Ukraine? HOW large of an age difference is acceptable? Wise? Are there any factors that influence the age range a woman will accept?
Now that I’ve been living in Kyiv for almost three years at the time of this writing I’m uniquely qualified to report from ground zero! Read all about it at Age Difference.
More to come…
As more topics come to mind, I’ll add them! Stay tuned…